Came across this mail from a dear friend. It consists of an article holding a principle behind the story...

Here's part of the article which I find very true and relevant to me:

*It seems without a doubt that to get rid of bad things that destroy or weigh down good things is part of the created order. The process is as natural as breathing. And that brings up a very important question:


Why do we stop doing what is so natural?



There are many reasons, but most have to do either with a lack of skills and good modeling of exactly how to acquire and imple­ment an emotional and spiritual immune system, or with fears that come from bad experiences when one has tried to exercise their immunities. Here are some examples you may identify with:



- Fear of someone's anger or hurt if you deal with the problem



- Fear of someone's judgment or disapproval when you deal with negative things



- Fear of actually losing the relationship itself, or at least los­ing love



- Guilty feelings when you confront someone or deal out consequences



- Experiences with role models who confronted hurtfully, and your determination not to be like them



- A lack of knowledge or skills relating to how to say things, or what to do if confrontation produces conflict, denial, or counterattack



- Paralysis when the problem person comes back at you



- Self-blame and feeling like you are the problem or feeling like you caused it



- Inability to let go of things because you fear that you cannot replace them (you will not find another relationship, job, and so on)*

Personally, the last two points are what striked me... because humans are animals with feelings. It's only natural they think or feel that way. Nevertheless, one should be realistic sometimes and do the right thing, and this reminds me of a book I've read: Who moved my cheese?

The story featured the difference between man and rat. When both parties finally found their cheese in a complicated maze, they are contented and started consuming. But when suddenly the cheese disappeared one day, only the rats move on in search for a new cheese. The men simply get stucked there and wonder where the cheese has gone. Somehow, I understand that searching is a very tiring process...